Men don't want funny women
Reuters
Women value a good sense of humour in a potential male partner, even if his jokes are crass. But men don't rate humour so highly in women, new research shows
It's a trait often requested in lonely hearts ads and scientists have now shown that a good sense of humour is important for women, but not men, in choosing a romantic partner.
A woman is even willing to overlook other shortcomings in a man if he can make her laugh, North American researchers say in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
"Our results suggest that humour can positively affect desirability as a relationship partner but this effect is most likely to occur when men use humour and are evaluated by women," says Dr Eric Bressler, an assistant professor at Westfield State College in Massachusetts.
Bressler and Canadian researcher Dr Sigal Balshine, an assistant professor at McMaster University in Ontario, demonstrated in an experiment that a good sense of humour, or GSOH as it appears in personal ads, does make a difference.
They showed groups of women pictures of two equally attractive men and presented autobiographical statements that were either funny or serious.
After reversing the experiment and showing groups of men photographs of two women, they asked both sexes to select who they would choose as a romantic partner.
The humorous people were seen as more socially adept but less trustworthy, honest and intelligent. Men did not select the funny person but women did.
"Women chose funny men as relationship partners despite often rating them as less honest and intelligent," the researchers say.
Funny men were preferred even if their humour was unsophisticated, the researchers add.
Actually, I don't know if men make it a point to avoid dating funny women. I often see that it's the men in the relationships who are witty. I think it is definitely an attractive trait because I've seen a lot of times where the gentleman would not have gotten together with a girl if it was not for him being funny.
I do think we ladies LOVE ENTERTAINMENT!!<:-D I know I do!:D... Yeah, there's a lot of truth that witty guys get more girls. Ladies are already overwhelmed with handling DRAMA in our lives, so we need HUMOR from the guys to offset it.
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Thursday, November 23, 2006
MIXED SIGNALS
This is such a wonderful article! It gives an understanding about both sexes :
1. From an evolutionary standpoint, it explains why a man often gets caught up in a self flattering mode (In Indonesian : GR) when a woman is simply 'being friendly or nice' to him. Additionally, I find that the more male-emotionally-oriented a man is, the higher the tendency for him to overestimate a woman's interest as sexual come-on. Males who are more female-emotionally-oriented tend to make less assumptions on or do not perceive women's overt friendly gestures as sexual come-on.
I also see a higher tendency of the more female-emotionally-oriented guys to have more female friends and that they tend to be able to relate to women better than their counterpart. But that can also have to do with comfort and familiarity when interacting with the opposite sex.
2. It explains why a woman is skeptical when a man talks about commitment in a relationship. Being in a relationship is a lifestyle preference and I find that women who choose to be in a relationship prefer long-term, full commitment relationship over short-period non-commitment dating. And sometimes, guys will say and/or do anything to impress a woman to go to bed with him. Therefore, by being skeptics, women have developed a defense mechanism.
Read on peeps and lemme know what you think!<:-D
Mixed Signals
How men and women misjudge sexual signals. And why men overestimate women's interest. By: Peter Rebhahn
Men often misinterpret a woman's innocent smile or compliment as a sexual come-on—but why? Gender stereotypes imply that men are socialized to oversexualize the world. But research suggests there are real evolutionary reasons that men and women get their signals crossed.
In two studies reported in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Martie G. Haselton, Ph.D., and David M. Buss, Ph.D., both University of Texas-Austin psychology professors, asked over 500 college students to picture themselves on a date. The students then used imagined acts like holding hands or giving compliments to rate their companion's and their own sexual interest and level of commitment.
The researchers discovered that men tended to overestimate women's sexual interest, while women underestimated men's willingness to commit. But interestingly enough, both men and women were more accurate in rating women's commitment levels, and when asked to imagine that the sexual target was their sister, men rarely misread sexual intent.
So why do men and women misjudge only certain cross-sex signals? They're adaptive biases, say the researchers. According to the theory of natural selection—in which only the fittest survive—males who falsely inferred a woman's sexual interest stood to gain descendants, and lost little if the woman was a suitable mate. "For ancestral men, it was more costly to miss a reproductive opportunity" than to face rejection, Haselton explains. But females who were abandoned after consenting to sex suffered far greater consequences: pregnancy, reduction in mate value and having to raise a child alone. "For women, it was more costly to be deceived by men, so selection favored skeptical women," he says, leading to their continued skepticism about men's willingness to commit.
Buss, who explores jealousy in his book, The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex (Simon & Schuster, Inc.), suggests scientists rethink the notion that human psychological mechanisms are always designed to be logical. "We're arguing that they're designed to be biased," he explains, particularly when it comes to issues of trust.
1. From an evolutionary standpoint, it explains why a man often gets caught up in a self flattering mode (In Indonesian : GR) when a woman is simply 'being friendly or nice' to him. Additionally, I find that the more male-emotionally-oriented a man is, the higher the tendency for him to overestimate a woman's interest as sexual come-on. Males who are more female-emotionally-oriented tend to make less assumptions on or do not perceive women's overt friendly gestures as sexual come-on.
I also see a higher tendency of the more female-emotionally-oriented guys to have more female friends and that they tend to be able to relate to women better than their counterpart. But that can also have to do with comfort and familiarity when interacting with the opposite sex.
2. It explains why a woman is skeptical when a man talks about commitment in a relationship. Being in a relationship is a lifestyle preference and I find that women who choose to be in a relationship prefer long-term, full commitment relationship over short-period non-commitment dating. And sometimes, guys will say and/or do anything to impress a woman to go to bed with him. Therefore, by being skeptics, women have developed a defense mechanism.
Read on peeps and lemme know what you think!<:-D
Mixed Signals
How men and women misjudge sexual signals. And why men overestimate women's interest. By: Peter Rebhahn
Men often misinterpret a woman's innocent smile or compliment as a sexual come-on—but why? Gender stereotypes imply that men are socialized to oversexualize the world. But research suggests there are real evolutionary reasons that men and women get their signals crossed.
In two studies reported in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Martie G. Haselton, Ph.D., and David M. Buss, Ph.D., both University of Texas-Austin psychology professors, asked over 500 college students to picture themselves on a date. The students then used imagined acts like holding hands or giving compliments to rate their companion's and their own sexual interest and level of commitment.
The researchers discovered that men tended to overestimate women's sexual interest, while women underestimated men's willingness to commit. But interestingly enough, both men and women were more accurate in rating women's commitment levels, and when asked to imagine that the sexual target was their sister, men rarely misread sexual intent.
So why do men and women misjudge only certain cross-sex signals? They're adaptive biases, say the researchers. According to the theory of natural selection—in which only the fittest survive—males who falsely inferred a woman's sexual interest stood to gain descendants, and lost little if the woman was a suitable mate. "For ancestral men, it was more costly to miss a reproductive opportunity" than to face rejection, Haselton explains. But females who were abandoned after consenting to sex suffered far greater consequences: pregnancy, reduction in mate value and having to raise a child alone. "For women, it was more costly to be deceived by men, so selection favored skeptical women," he says, leading to their continued skepticism about men's willingness to commit.
Buss, who explores jealousy in his book, The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex (Simon & Schuster, Inc.), suggests scientists rethink the notion that human psychological mechanisms are always designed to be logical. "We're arguing that they're designed to be biased," he explains, particularly when it comes to issues of trust.
Monday, November 20, 2006
CAN'T BUY ME LOVE
Here is an interesting article for our lovely ladies & gents :
Can't Buy Me Love
Today's women are more likely to scrutinize the face of a potential mate, not his wallet.
By:Sondra Wolfer
When it comes to attracting women, men may want to invest in a gym membership rather than bank on their bank account.
As more women become financially independent, they are less likely to seek mates with wealth and are more interested in good looks, according to research in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
"When women can control resources independently, they can afford to have preferences more typical of males, to go for things like physical attractiveness and youthfulness," says Fhionna Moore, a researcher at the University of St Andrews in the U.K.
Moore found the change in preferences was linked to a woman's level of financial independence rather than to her absolute earning power.
Fellas seem to be getting the message, if the recent proliferation of men's fashion and fitness magazines is any sign. Says Moore: "All the men I know now spend more time on their hair than I do."
What do you think abt this article ladies and fellas?
I think this article brings up some good points from the perspective of women who are relatively established and independent. It may not be true for those women who specialize in dating 'wealthy' men. Physical appearance may not be significant at all for them.
Let's be realistic here. When we see an opposite sex and we are physically attracted to him or her, it's first and foremost due to his or her looks or physical appearance. This is not to say that character is not important. And people do fall in love with someone when they get to know one another and have spent some time together, not necessarily due to 'love at first sight'. But for the sake of this article we are talking about those women who have the luxury to choose physical appearance as top priority when dating. Some may say it's so shallow to just care about someone's looks. But looks involve more than just the actual physical appearance on the surface. It gives us an insight about their hygiene/grooming habits, some preference of style, etc. Sometimes it gives us a sense of their lifestyle to a certain extent. It is an introduction about someone and it is what draws our interest to get to know them further. Then as we get to know them better and as we take an interest about their character, they become either less or more attractive to us. To women who are relatively established and somewhat independent, it's understandable that they want someone who is more than just established. These women already have that covered. So they want to move beyond the basics of whether or not a man can provide them with financial security. Compatibility between two people becomes most crucial in this case.
And yes my past observations have supported this article. I see my male friends hitting the gym when a woman comes into the picture :D Those who do not normally or regularly go to the gym become gym-regular out of the blue. They change clothes, do their hair and become Mr. Vain and Mr. SmellGood!<:-D And i'd be like who's your the girl now????<:-D
But I'd say it's all good...We ladies like to see guys who take care of themselves too... Keep up the good work fellas!
Much love,
Ria:D
Can't Buy Me Love
Today's women are more likely to scrutinize the face of a potential mate, not his wallet.
By:Sondra Wolfer
When it comes to attracting women, men may want to invest in a gym membership rather than bank on their bank account.
As more women become financially independent, they are less likely to seek mates with wealth and are more interested in good looks, according to research in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
"When women can control resources independently, they can afford to have preferences more typical of males, to go for things like physical attractiveness and youthfulness," says Fhionna Moore, a researcher at the University of St Andrews in the U.K.
Moore found the change in preferences was linked to a woman's level of financial independence rather than to her absolute earning power.
Fellas seem to be getting the message, if the recent proliferation of men's fashion and fitness magazines is any sign. Says Moore: "All the men I know now spend more time on their hair than I do."
What do you think abt this article ladies and fellas?
I think this article brings up some good points from the perspective of women who are relatively established and independent. It may not be true for those women who specialize in dating 'wealthy' men. Physical appearance may not be significant at all for them.
Let's be realistic here. When we see an opposite sex and we are physically attracted to him or her, it's first and foremost due to his or her looks or physical appearance. This is not to say that character is not important. And people do fall in love with someone when they get to know one another and have spent some time together, not necessarily due to 'love at first sight'. But for the sake of this article we are talking about those women who have the luxury to choose physical appearance as top priority when dating. Some may say it's so shallow to just care about someone's looks. But looks involve more than just the actual physical appearance on the surface. It gives us an insight about their hygiene/grooming habits, some preference of style, etc. Sometimes it gives us a sense of their lifestyle to a certain extent. It is an introduction about someone and it is what draws our interest to get to know them further. Then as we get to know them better and as we take an interest about their character, they become either less or more attractive to us. To women who are relatively established and somewhat independent, it's understandable that they want someone who is more than just established. These women already have that covered. So they want to move beyond the basics of whether or not a man can provide them with financial security. Compatibility between two people becomes most crucial in this case.
And yes my past observations have supported this article. I see my male friends hitting the gym when a woman comes into the picture :D Those who do not normally or regularly go to the gym become gym-regular out of the blue. They change clothes, do their hair and become Mr. Vain and Mr. SmellGood!<:-D And i'd be like who's your the girl now????<:-D
But I'd say it's all good...We ladies like to see guys who take care of themselves too... Keep up the good work fellas!
Much love,
Ria:D
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